Yes, says Mike Toledo

I would be fine with that situation—my wife or partner earning more than me! A man who is quite secure—in his manhood, his career, his status in life—should think nothing of it. In fact, he should be able to embrace his wife’s success with genuine joy.

This is not a rare attitude these days; I share this with many other Filipino males, I am sure. With the advent of technology, which makes it easier to access what’s going on in the world, men are more open to non-traditional situations, like this reversal of roles. And believe me, the number of successful women in this country and in the world is increasing each day.

I would support my wife or partner with her successful career. And I could show that support in many ways. I would not throw a fit if she comes home later than me. I would not sulk if she is too preoccupied with work on some days. And I could share in the housework or parenting when necessary.

Oh, and yes, I would definitely enjoy the gifts and perks that my wife may shower upon me! Hahahaha!

Mike Toledo, columnist and media bureau head for the MVP Group, was appointed Education Ambassador by the British government to promote UK education.

No, says Henry Zabarte

I have always believed that the man ought to provide for his family. If my wife earns more than I do, that situation will surely make me uncomfortable. I am alright if we both work and she takes home a salary equal to mine. Perhaps I will still be alright if she earns a littl e bit more than I.

But a big difference in our salaries will surely make me think that there is something desperately wrong with me. I would look at the situation as a failur e on my part as a man, a husband, a father , and a provider. Chances are, she might even leave me!

I have never considered money as a reason to marry someone. If my wife were an heiress, that would be fine, as long as I still brought home the bacon and fed the family. She could enjoy her wealth and share it with the family some other way.

My way of thinking, I believe, is how many Filipino males think. We take pride in the role of provider, as this is the tradition which we have grown up with for generations. I see no signs of this changing in the near future.

Henry Zabarte has built a name and a thriving business in construction and in real estate. He is married to former model Jojo Kierulf.