A great way to understand yourself and your partner is to find out your love language through Dr Gary Chapman, PhD's The Five Love Languages!
There are many ways to express love to your significant other. But you want to make sure your partner knows that you truly understand their needs by showing appreciation and intimacy the right way. Thankfully, marriage counsellor Dr Gary Chapman, PhD published The 5 Love Languages, a book that shows the five different ways people can show and see love. We've summed up the five love languages below for you to find out which one you or your partner value most to understand each other better and achieve a healthier relationship:
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1. Hearing words of affirmation
What it is: A person whose love language is words of affirmation often knows how to lift people's spirits up. Perhaps because they know firsthand how kind words would make someone feel. Dr Chapman's book shares that this person values words of encouragement, support, appreciation, and affirmation. A group of Japanese scientists found that positive words are seen as social rewards that can help a person perform better in the things they do.
How to make them feel loved: According to Dr Chapman, words of affirmation can be best expressed through love notes or letters. You may make notes out of the blue or consistently and leave them in different parts of the house. But you may also give them letters on special occasions.
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