While loneliness often has negative associations, it is not always a bad thing. It can, in fact, teach us a lot. Spending quality time alone offers an excellent opportunity for downtime; unwinding and relaxing after a stressful day.
Some people make the most out of being “alone” by catching up on their favorite television programs or novels, taking a warm bath or massage, or just treating themselves to their own preferred hobbies or interests, such as cooking or travelling.
Alone time also offers wonderful opportunities for self-reflection, by engaging in journaling, yoga, or meditation. It is psychologically very healthy to “reframe” alone time: it’s not a sad symptom of loneliness; rather, it is an opportunity to engage in self-care and learn to enjoy quality time with the most important person in life: yourself.
With these tips in mind, remember the next time you experience loneliness that you are not powerless. You choose how to react to these feelings.
Either you believe loneliness is suggesting a lack of fulfillment in your life and you pro-actively try to solve the issue by trying new activities and social events, or loneliness is just part of life’s cycle and you use that time to engage in quality self-care. Your thoughts about the feeling will determine your reaction to it; ultimately, the control is all yours.
Dr. Michael Eason is a psychologist and US licensed therapist practicing at MindnLife in Central, Hong Kong.
This article was originally published by hk.asiatatler.com