The object of a, very, public scandal, Hayden found solace in his Christian beliefs and is now a successful businessman and family man.
Once voted by a popular social media site “the most hated man in the country”, Dr Hayden Kho Jnr has made a complete turnaround in his life
and embraces the lessons from the very public and salacious scandals that plagued him over a decade ago concerning a leaked sex tape. The affairs and series of civil and criminal cases not only cost him his reputation in show business but also his medical career, as the Philippine Board of Medicine revoked his license in 2009, resulting in multiple attempts to take his own life.
After years of uncertainty, he reached a turning point in 2013, when he met the Christian philosopher and apologist, Ravi Zacharias, who then became his mentor in the Christian faith. Since then, Hayden has pursued studies in Christian apologetics at Oxford, has had his medical license reinstated and now helms the product and services development head as well as the marketing Director of Belo Medical Group as well as several other businesses and non-profit organisations. He is also happily married to his longtime partner, Dr Vicki Belo, with whom he has a daughter, Scarlet Snow.
What were your thoughts and emotions at that time?
In two words, hopelessness and meaninglessness. I realised that the gap between what I was and what I had imagined myself to be became so irreconcilable that there was no way I could recover. I was a godless hedonist at that time, so to no longer have anything to “eat, drink, and be merry” for was, to me, a paralysing predicament. I ran away from God a decade before the crisis, but with nothing and no one to run to. GK Chesterton once said, “Meaninglessness does not come from being weary of pain. Meaninglessness comes from being weary of pleasure.” I learnt that truth when I hit rock bottom. Running away from God to pursue pleasures brought to me to a dark place. I was alone, in fear and ashamed.