Korina Sanchez-Roxas has played many roles: award-winning broadcast journalist, television news and radio anchor, magazine show host, newspaper columnist, entrepreneur, and wife to former Senator and Secretary of Interior and Local Government Mar Roxas. Now comes the role of a lifetime, one she almost thought would never be hers: a mother
In February, Korina and Mar welcomed twin babies, a boy and a girl, born via surrogate in the United States. The joy the couple feels at becoming parents is indescribable. “Sometimes, when you wish hard enough for a miracle, you get two,” she marvels.
Her path to motherhood at 54 was unconventional. “In school, I was always one of those known to most likely have five or more kids. I love children. As a child, whenever in a hospital, I would always look for the nursery and just watch the little ones in their cribs—often for hours! As an adult, my career took control. I always seemed bound to be married, but it had to be the right one at the time when I was whole, you know? And it didn’t happen till I was past 40.
“But always knowing I wanted children (and marriage wasn’t on the horizon at the time when Mar and I were just dating), I just dove in and asked him if we could have embryos frozen. And he agreed. The embryos have been in the facility here in the Philippines for years. There just wasn’t any right enough time to implant. Then, after 2016, and after all the mountain climbing and deep-sea diving, we finally said, ‘It’s time.’”
Although she and Mar are both public figures, the choice to have children the way they did, she feels, should remain a private matter. However, she would really like to move this conversation forward and stress that “women have options. At this day and age, men still have the lion’s share of these options. But women, compared to days past now have more than before. Our doctors and facilities here in the country are competent. Success percentages are high. But the infrastructure that takes care of the stakeholders isn’t quite in place just yet.
“In the United States, this process has long been legitimised, and legalised, and is very efficient. There are people there who put everything together: doctor, lawyers, surrogate, intended parents. Science and technology are a gift from Heaven. It is how we use it that makes it good or bad. The love that overflows with the arrival of a child says it all.
“Women shouldn’t have to feel pressured to have children in their twenties or thirties if they’re not ready. I’m a big fan of making yourself whole first before reaching out to others, getting married, and having kids. Remember that song of Barry Manilow, ‘Sandra’? I think of my mum when I hear that song. It has guided me since my teens. If I hadn’t done it as soon as I did I might have had time to be me, for myself. Life’s short; women need to plan their lives well. I’m not saying they should wait as long as I did. But they can wait.”